Do I Need Rehab? Can I do it on my Own?
Holistic, Non 12-Step Addiction Treatment Center in Hawaii
Why Can’t I Get Sober On My Own?
Addiction has two primary allies: isolation and shame. When you try to recover on your own, you exacerbate both of these issues.
Oftentimes you will isolate because you don’t want anyone to know of your addiction. This then stirs up the shame you’re feeling about your addiction. When you’re alone, you don’t have a way to work through this shame. You haven’t learned the skill set of how to navigate your pain and shame, so it only grows worse.
You’re not a therapist. You’re not supposed to have the tools to change your behavior overnight. Remember, your addiction is linked to a deeply-rooted reason that compels you to numb out. You may not even know what this underlying issue is — and that’s perfectly okay.
The most effective way to get sober is to do so in an environment of people that can teach you how to rewire your brain; who can guide you in practicing these tools — so that by the time you go back home, you will know how to self-regulate and cope in a healthy way for the long-term, without drugs or alcohol.
Get an Accurate Picture of Your Addiction
Many people with an addiction don’t think that they have one. They’ve been rationalizing their behavior for so long that it’s now difficult to see their behavior accurately. They say things like:
“I only take drugs at parties.”
“I just drink to take the edge off.”
“I’m only taking Oxycodone because I had surgery.”
We don’t do this out of spite or malice. We tell ourselves stories because it’s easier to live in denial than deal with the cold, hard truth of addiction.
But eventually, there comes a point when you can’t ignore it anymore. Maybe your doctor has told you that your heart is in dangerous shape. Or maybe your friend keeps asking how many drinks you had last night.
At this point, go to someone you trust and ask them if they think you have a problem. Try to remain as open-minded as you can. Don’t feel shameful about your actions — this is someone who loves you, and wants to see you flourish. Trust that they’re giving you a more accurate representation than you’re able to see yourself right now.
Understanding the Severity of Your Addiction
When you’re actively grappling with substance use disorders, you often can’t clearly see the severity of it.
If you struggle with alcohol abuse, you could be dealing with occasional blackouts. So you’re not able to remember and come to terms with how urgent your problem has become.
Or, if you’ve been using drugs a long time, your brain may have started to develop some memory problems. Again, this makes it very difficult to accurately assess your situation when you can’t see the whole picture.
For most people with an addiction, they’re often in a state of numbing out, with one substance or another.
And when they are sober, they’re in a state of shame. This shame tints your view of yourself. If your self-esteem and mental health are already in a dangerously low place, you may be trying to protect yourself by not allowing yourself to see the full scope of your problem.
Again, this is where it’s vital to listen to your loved ones if they bring up your addiction. Try to listen with an open mind and heart, even when the words are difficult to hear. Trust that they have your best interests at heart, and they may be a better judgment of your behavior then you are right now.
A Private, Non 12 Step Rehab Program
• Top-of-the-Line Medical Care
• Secluded, Relaxing Setting
• Private Rooms Available
• Maximum of 8 Clients
• Personalized, Non 12 Step Therapy
• Wide Array of Holistic Services
What you should understand about the Rehab Process
So you’ve listened to what your family members and friends have to say. Now it’s time for you to look into treatment centers. There are a few steps you can take to make the most of your treatment for the moment you walk through the door.
1) You have to decide that you want to take your life back.
Many people mistakenly believe that when you go to a drug rehab, the doctors and therapists will “fix” you. This is an illusion. You’re not a car going to a mechanic to get your carburetor repaired. You have to be the one to step forward and learn the skills to live your life differently.
2) Educate yourself.
Instead, shift your focus to finding out what actionable tools the treatment program teaches their clients to manage their stress and discomfort. Do they have a response when you ask them the specific skills they’ll teach you?
Rehab 1: “We use talk therapy and 12 Step meetings.” (This is a little vague.)
Rehab 2: “We teach emotional intelligence skills, Mindful Inquiry, and conscious breathing techniques.” (Ah! Now here’s a list of tools I can take home with me.)
Remember, substance abuse is a symptom of a deeper issue — this root cause is what you need to heal.
3) Seek out those close to you.
Before you leave for the rehab center, talk to the people in your life with whom you feel most safe; let them in on your decision to heal yourself.
Now, you’ll have someone (or a few people) who can be your support group after you arrive back home. This sense of safety and connection is invaluable for transitioning back home after treatment.
4) Fully commit.
Make sure you’re fully committed to your addiction treatment choice. If you find yourself getting overwhelmed by the admission details or the length of treatment, take a deep breath.
Yes, you’ll be going away for 30 days — but think how many days you’re saving yourself from being high or drunk. How many more days you’ll be able to be present with your loved ones. Even how much longer your life will be because your health is no longer in a steep decline from your drug abuse.
Your addiction has cost you many days of your life already — 30 days is a drop in the bucket in comparison.
If you’re worried about the cost, consider how much you’ll save by not buying your substance every week. Think how much more efficient you’ll be at work without a hangover or buzz hanging over you.
The addicted mind often wants to remind us of the reasons why recovery will be hard — try to shift that mindset into reminding you why recovery will be life-giving.
The Dangers of Detoxing Alone
Many people don’t realize the potential life-threatening risk related to detoxing. Your body has developed a psychological or physical dependence on your substance of choice, and there can be some very real ramifications if you decide to stop “cold turkey.”
- If you’re a heavy drinker, you can have a seizure if you decide to stop abruptly on your own.
- Withdrawals from cocaine can lead to thoughts of self-harm or psychotic episodes.
- For heroin and opioid users, you can experience flu-like symptoms and intense discomfort.
- Since you haven’t learned how to cope with your discomfort yet, you’re more likely to go back to using the substance to get relief.
When detoxing off of any substance, we recommend being in a treatment facility with medical supervision.
When it comes to your health, detoxing is not the time to roll the dice and hope you’ll be okay.
Drugs That Likely Require Detox
We recommend that anyone who wants to stop taking a substance should do so with the proper guidance of a doctor, which often includes a medically-supervised detox. If you’re taking any of the following substances, please consult a medical professional before stopping:
- Club drugs (Ecstasy)
- Prescription drug painkillers (Vicodin & Hydrocodone)
- Benzodiazepines (Xanax, Klonopin, & Valium)
- Ambien & other sleep medications
When you seek out the proper medical advice and care, your detox experience can be less uncomfortable and stressful. Being surrounded by professional addiction specialists puts you in the prime position to dive into the work of resolving the deeper issues driving your behavior.
The Exclusive Hawaii Private Rehab
Customized, Holistic Services
We believe that addiction doesn’t just affect one aspect of ourselves. It’s pervasive to our entire being — body, mind, and soul.
For this reason, we treat your addiction from all sides. We offer a combination of holistic services to assist in your healing. These include:
- Nutritional therapy
- Emotional intelligence tools
- Nature & beach excursions
- Mindful Inquiry skills
- Conscious breathing sessions
We also have a full medical team on staff to administer a comprehensive detox protocol and address any health questions or concerns you have.
Private Space to Unwind
- 52-acre property on the Big Island of Hawaii
- Perched on a hillside with no one else in sight
- 180-degree views of the Pacific Ocean
- Shared or private bedrooms
- Maximum of 8 clients
Non 12 Step Approach
Our Non 12 Step therapy combines individual and group therapy sessions to uncover the root causes of your addiction.
Once you’ve identified these often hidden issues, we use experiential therapy to help you learn new skills to use instead of your unhealthy, addictive behavior.
Your therapeutic and treatment plan will be completely customized to your needs, including addressing any co-occuring disorders that are negatively impacting your self-worth and mental health.
With our hands-on approach, you’re able to create new, long lasting patterns.
Take Back Your Life
It can be difficult to accept help for something as personal as an addiction. Rest assured that our staff understands your concerns, reservations, and fears.
We know you’re trying to cope with some painful issues in whatever way you can. We can teach you how to reconfigure your coping mechanisms to be healthy and help you move forward in your life.
Learn how to create stronger relationships, silence that negative voice in your head, and finally accept yourself. Call us today.