EATING DISORDER TREATMENT
Holistic, Non 12-Step Addiction Treatment Center in Hawaii
TIRED OF A CONTROLLING EATING DISORDER PROGRAM?
Are you tired of having people insist they know what you should or shouldn’t eat and when? Forcing you to adopt healthier routines and daily practices, while focusing on “fixing” your food issues, is simply not the solution. With that type of eating disorder treatment, the deep emotional turmoil will remain unresolved and eventually the old painful behaviors will return.
There is a good reason why you do what you do. You are in pain. Let’s address the pain that underlies the eating disorder. Let’s get to the heart of the issue.
Top level eating disorder programs know that to permanently end eating disorders, we must address the origin of the problem at its very core. While many eating disorder treatments attempt to manage and correct issues of self-esteem and image, they are often highly controlling, restrictive and intimidating.
If you want to resolve your eating disorder, you need an eating disorder treatment program that will address the lingering pain from the past and the very reasons why you seek solace in your relationship with food.
When you begin to unravel these pieces, you’ll begin to experience relief, self-confidence, and happiness.
The Pressure of Living with an Eating Disorder
The deep-seated voice of an eating disorder bombards you with negative thoughts all day.
“What you think doesn’t matter. How you feel doesn’t matter. Just act like the person they want to see.”
It often feels like you’re living your life without ever being seen for who you really are.
Living with the constant pressure of what others are expecting of you is at the core of life with an eating disorder. Sometimes, the pressure gets to be so overwhelming that you can no longer think or feel for yourself. It can seem like everyone else’s opinions of you are all that exist.
It’s like being trapped in a cell with no control of what happens to you. And this lack of control ends up manifesting itself in an eating disorder, as an attempt to regain control.
“At least no one gets to control my body,” is your brain’s line of reasoning.
It’s time for someone to see you, hear you, and accept you, along with all your pain, your feelings, and your aspirations. It’s time for your nervous system to get relief. It’s time for you to be seen for who you are.
You deserve this. You care deeply in regards to living up to other expectations, and now it’s time to extend this deep caring towards yourself and your own core values.
An eating disorder is a cry to exist. So hear that call, and respond.
Respond by developing the ability to see yourself accurately, without the conditions that have been put on you. (Though this may seem impossible to you right now, this is a skill that can be learned.)
Once you understand your conditioned mind and can see through the layers of the false judgments, you’ll begin to feel free.
You’ll learn to love yourself, without any conditions.
Heal in Paradise
• Secluded, luxurious setting
• Maximum of 8 clients at a time
• Top-of-the-line medical care
• Private or shared bedrooms available
• Wide array of holistic services
Heal Your Eating Disorder
What are eating disorders?
Eating disorders are multi-layered issues that stem from a deeply-lacking sense of self-worth.
Eating disorders can show themselves in many ways. Some people restrict their diet to an unhealthy level. Others may eat compulsively and secretly. Others yet may purge after eating, or exercise excessively to null any calories that were consumed.
If you think you might be struggling with an eating disorder, or think a loved one is, consider these questions:
- Do you meticulously watch your weight and weigh yourself several times a day?
- How do you feel when someone comments on your body? How long do you think about that comment after?
- Do they go to the bathroom often? Especially after or during meals?
- How often do you look at yourself in a mirror?
- Are you dizzy? Have you ever fainted?
- Are you developing tooth sensitivity?
As you answer these questions, remember: you’re perfectly okay. You’re looking into treatment options and seeing what will be the best levels of care for you — and that’s more than most do.
An eating disorder is by no means a lifelong sentence. A good health care program can get your health back on track, but most importantly, help you shift your way of thinking that has gotten you on this path in the first place.
Is an Eating Disorder the Same as An Addiction?
No matter what a person is struggling with — eating disorder, drug abuse, alcohol addiction, gambling addiction — the real issue lies within the mindset that is producing the destructive behavior.
The first step to help anyone struggling with addictive behavior is to get them physically in a healthy place. This looks different for each person. For people with eating disorders, there may be a more intensive medical protocol. Rest assured that eating disorder treatment programs have experienced medical staff that will create a personalized health plan to get you back on track.
One of the unique obstacles of eating disorders is that to get healthier, you must continue to face your biggest trigger — food.
So every day a person with an eating disorder has to sit down for a meal, they’re coming face-to-face with their biggest challenge.
Imagine how difficult this is. This is the equivalent to sending someone who struggles with alcohol abuse to rehab — only to have a bar in the living room.
Make sure your program has a staff that understands the enormous anxiety that you’re having to face every day. A well-trained eating disorder facility will be there to listen to any concerns and anxiety you’re having, and will be able to work with you to make a customized plan that works for you.
What are the common types of eating disorders?
Some of the most common types of eating disorders are anorexia nervosa, bulimia nervosa, and binge eating disorder.
People struggling with anorexia tend to see themselves as overweight, even when they’re dangerously underweight. The fear of gaining weight can begin to consume your life; you may always be thinking about what you can and can’t eat, along with the exact number of calories you should eat at your next meal.
You might also exercise to the point of exhaustion, in hopes of losing another pound.
Or you might purge after eating or take laxatives to rid your body of the food.
When you start experiencing health complications, it can be confusing, and scary, because you still don’t see yourself as too thin. Remember to give yourself some compassion. You’re not supposed to be able to figure this out on your own — that’s what a program’s professional therapists and medical team are for.
Some people confuse anorexia and bulimia, because they both can involve purging. The main distinction is that someone struggling with bulimia will eat an unusually large amount of food in a short time period (otherwise known as binge eating).
After this binge, this person will purge the food they just consumed. They do this to help their overly full stomach feel better, as well as compensating for all the calories they just ingested.
The main difference between anorexia and bulimia is that many people struggling with bulimia do not look overly thin — they tend to maintain a typical weight.
If you’re struggling with bulimia, you also probably have a severe fear of gaining weight.
Many people, women especially, start purging at quite a young age, and can continue for years before someone notices.
Remember that no matter how long you’ve been in the cycle of binge eating and purging, there is always time to remove yourself and move to healthier habits and ways of thinking.
Binge Eating Disorder
Someone struggling with a binge eating disorder eats a large quantity of food at a time, often feeling like they don’t have any control over what they’re eating. These eating habits can happen anytime throughout the day, even when the person isn’t hungry.
After consuming this food, this person does not purge in any way. This can lead to weight gain and increased levels of insecurity about their appearance and shame about their behavior.
If you’re struggling with binge eating, remember that there’s always a deeper meaning behind your actions. It’s often very difficult to figure these issues out on our own, so we try to cope in whatever way we can.
You’ve been doing the best you can, and you can learn how to release the shame you’re feeling and move on to a healthier place.
Are My Looks Really Everything?
Where is my scale? Who took my scale? Did I gain any weight today? Do I still fit in my clothes?
This is the obsession behind an eating disorder. 24 hours a day these thoughts run through your mind. The false sense that if I get to control the way I look, I will be fulfilled and happy. The false sense that my weight defines me in some way.
“But you don’t understand — I can’t gain weight. If I allow myself to eat, I’ll blow up like a balloon.”
This kind of thinking is not who you are. It has been programmed into you from friends, bullies, family members, and society.
“I’m only loveable if I’m thin.”
When you say it out loud, it sounds a little absurd, doesn’t it? Yet, we are all bombarded everyday with ads and images of what we should look like, how we should dress, what shape we should be in, and how attractive we should be.
While we often buy into these messages, we don’t consider the cost of them. The cost of real relationships with ourselves and others. The cost of emotionally, and sometimes physically, dying at a slow pace every day.
Try to remember that, yes, you are beautiful — inside and out. And yes, you can be healthy in the way you manage your weight. But first, you must shed the conditions that have dominated your psyche for so long.
Once you learn and change this programmed way of thinking, your life becomes the opposite of all the “should’s.” You feel liberated, and feel able to finally experience the safety of expressing your brilliance from the inside out.
Who is at risk for eating disorders?
Anyone can develop an eating disorder. However, they are most commonly found in women, with the eating disorder forming while they are adolescents or young women. Even though this is when many eating disorders develop, women can harbor the behavior for many years before seeking treatment.
At the same time, men who have an eating disorder can feel particularly shameful about their behavior, because an eating disorder is often considered a “woman’s” issue.
No matter who you are, know that there were likely a lot of factors that led you down this path. A few factors that may contribute to develop an eating disorder are:
- Having a negative body image
- Struggling with depression, obsessive compulsive disorder, or anxiety
- A history of sexual or other trauma
- Childhood obesity or weight problems
- Growing up in a family who was overly concerned about physical appearance
- Participation in specific activities where you’re expected to look a certain way (like swimming, gymnastics, or wrestling)
While these past experiences may have contributed to the onset of your eating disorder, they hold valuable knowledge to help you move forward. When you learn how to become aware of the deep beliefs that drive your eating disorder, you can begin to release those experiences and learn new, healthier coping mechanisms.
How are eating disorders treated?
Addressing the Anxiety Behind an Eating Disorder
The deeper issue of an eating disorder exists at the nervous system level. If the anxiety does not subside, the eating disorder will continue to persist.
Most people do not understand what is truly creating their anxiety.
While your anxiety is giving you information, that wisdom is not being accessed.
To access that information, you’ll need to look at your anxiety. Anxiety (and other emotions) point us back to our self-destructive beliefs.
By using this kind of emotional intelligence skill, you can change the crippling reactions you have — the ones that lead you to knee-jerk responses when those feelings are repressed.
Once you learn about the deep-seated fear and the coping mechanisms you’ve created for survival, you will begin to feel immediate relief.
A Destructive Programmed Way of Thinking
“Oh, you don’t fit in that size?”
“Why are you wearing so much makeup?”
“Did you just roll out of bed?”
“You’re going to have another cookie?”
These questions — and this kind of unsaid pressure — has been predominant for most of the life of someone who suffers from an eating disorder.
Whether the expectations of performance came from the parents, schoolteachers, being bullied at school, or society, the result is usually the same: the inability to be ourselves.
This leads you to form a conditioned way of thinking — one that pressures yourself to perform for others, without any regards to one’s own feelings, desires, and thoughts. The consequences of this are feeling unsafe, unloved, and uncared for.
It’s time to relearn how to think for yourself. To be all that you already are, without conditions from the outside world. To regain your resilient self.
With the right skills, you can change the way you think. You can restructure your original programming like changing the coding in a computer; by developing new neural pathways in your brain.
You can develop and rediscover a life force within you that is unshakeable and unstoppable.
Finally, it’s time to release the fear and shame-based way of thinking that has plagued you and create long-term change in your life.
Helping You Get Back to a Healthy Place
A strong program knows how to balance working with both your mental health issues and your physical symptoms.
A medical staff will be able to provide the necessary support when it comes to keeping you safe and back on track. At a holistic program specifically, they’ll have a multitude of ways to reboot your immune system and heal your body’s malfunctions, in the ways of supplements, nutritional therapy, acupuncture, and more.
While many eating disorder clinics can give the appropriate medical advice and treatment, it’s important to find one that compassionately treats you and allows you the independence you need to fully heal.
With this in mind, when looking into programs, ask if they utilize force-feeding, or whether they lock the bathrooms so you won’t have access.
While these tactics can be helpful for some, for others it will feel stifling and repressive (and may be a difficult environment to heal).
What are the types of therapy used to treat eating disorders?
There are a broad range of therapies that can assist in the treatment of eating disorders. A few of these include:
• Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)
• Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT)
• Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR)
• Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
• Core Belief Restructuring (CBR)
• Experiential Engagement Therapy (EET)
When choosing a style of therapy, look for approaches that are effective in treating eating disorders along with any co-occuring disorders as well (like depression, anxiety, PTSD, OCD). Also look for a technique that will help you look at the root causes of your eating disorder, and teach you applicable coping mechanisms you can use in place of your destructive ones.
LEARN TO LET GO OF THE SHAME SURROUNDING YOUR EATING DISORDER
When you are battling an eating disorder, it’s extremely difficult to deal with the constant pressure of protecting your secret life and attempting to avoid the judgments of others. To heal unresolved wounds, we need to be cared for, not judged.
A highly rated eating disorder treatment program truly knows that everyone is doing their best, according to what they currently understand. They help you see yourself accurately, beyond the pain of shame and destructive judgments.
Shame feeds an eating disorder. Acceptance and love release the shame. It is crucial to be with practitioners who embody a non-judgmental attitude and honors who you are as a precious and deserving person.
It’s time to release the judgments you carry that you’ve accumulated over a lifetime. Experience the joy of being valued and respected to make your own decisions about your own body, your own emotions, and your own life.
``I just felt so comfortable, so safe and so cared for.
To be accepted as I was — the good and the bad, everything about me — it was truly incredible.
It was the first time in my life I had ever really felt that.``
– Confidential Client Testimonial
CREATE A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP WITH FOOD
(EVEN AFTER YOU RETURN HOME)
Many treatment programs help you curtail the compulsion to overeat or starve yourself. But what happens when you return home? And you no longer have chefs preparing your customized food plan and a therapy team at your fingertips helping with your eating behaviors?
If your core issues have not been resolved, hidden pain can come flooding back in, and a relapse can result.
A solid eating disorder treatment program knows what it takes to release the pain and overcome these deep issues. They will help you get past your fears of your emotional turmoil. This path out of addiction brings tremendous relief. This kind of professional guidance helps you recognize your own toxic beliefs which have caused stress and exacerbated the addiction cycle.
The Exclusive Hawaii
We offer one of the most customized and private eating disorder treatments in the United States.
A CLEAR PATH TO END YOUR EATING DISORDER
Our innovative holistic treatment program gives you a clear road map to end your compulsions and secret self-soothing behaviors. We recognize your uniqueness and design a customized program around your specific needs.
Our team of professionals work together to create the most effective treatment plan, while making ongoing adjustments to fully support and accelerate your recovery. With our one-on-one and small group personalized therapy, you will gain skills to overcome your eating disorder with more ease and grace than you ever thought possible.
Beautiful, relaxing setting
• 52 acre private property on Big Island of Hawaii
• Customized therapeutic and medical care
• Maximum of 8 clients at a time
• Nonjudgmental, compassionate environment
• Movement & fitness opportunities
Our treatment team knows that there is a better way, and we have the certification to prove it. Along with our substance abuse and mental health accreditation by CARF, our eating disorder program received its own, separate CARF certification.
This certification is further evidence that we know the best ways to incorporate diet, therapy, and activity into your program to help you regain a balanced mindset and healthy relationship with food.
AN EATING DISORDER PROGRAM YOU CAN TRUST
Feeling apprehensive about attending an eating disorder program is understandable. At our program, helping you take control over your own life in healthful, balanced ways is the center of our work.
We know that what you really crave is to feel free, to feel good about yourself and to feel in control of your own relationship with food.
Our medical, dietetic and therapy staff will assist you along the road to recovery, and an essential part of the process is your willingness to do the work, find ways to receive nourishment, and demonstrate commitment to healing your relationship with food, with control, with body image and with your painful history.
In our supportive and nurturing program, we help you establish trust so you can find the answers that are already within you. Being in our compassionate environment of self-discovery and empowerment is both exhilarating and brings deep relief. Our clients find they learn to truly enjoy self-exploration rather than fearing it.
Take Back Your Life
This is an important phase in your life. Are you going to continue to let your eating disorder dictate your schedule, your health, and your well-being? Or are you going to make the commitment that you’re going to take back your life?
It takes a lot of strength to truthfully look at yourself and decide you want to grow. So if you’re ever questioning if you have the strength to seek treatment, use this as a reminder of your resilience.
Please give us a call if you want to find out what your new life could look like.